![]() Saying “I love you” could come more easily if we allow ourselves to become vulnerable with one another. It means we have to be open to not only opportunities around us, but to the hearts of other people as well.īrene Brown, a research professor at the University of Houston, says that if we allow ourselves to be deeply vulnerable to the people around us, we can live a much happier life and become more fulfilled with our interactions with one another. To be vulnerable with one another entails an open heart. We are told that we should always protect ourselves from love because the heartbreak that comes with it is unbearable.īut without vulnerability, there is no meaning to love. We live in a world where we are taught that vulnerability is a bad thing. Have you ever tried saying “I love you” to yourself in the mirror? When we do this, we not only learn more about the other person, but we find out more about ourselves as well.Įven with all of these things, why is it still so hard to say “I love you”? Why It Is Hard For Us To Say “I Love You” It takes patience, compassion, understanding, and courage to dig deeper. “I love you” also comes from a deep and genuine place in your heart.įinding this place in your heart does not come easy for most people. The message you send esteems clear intent, and that in itself is so powerful. You create a deeply emotional tie between you and the other person you are saying it to. ![]() It not only means that there is love for you, but it also means that the love for you is from me, creating emotional intimacy.īy starting the phrase with “I”, you take ownership and affirm your feelings of love. The phrase “I love you” justifies the involvement of you and the other person. It’s a feeling and an emotion we naturally crave as social human beings. There is no denying that there is an all-powerful meaning to love. This creates a barrier between you and the other person you are saying it to.īut what could happen if we start to say “I love you” instead of “love you”? The Meaning Behind “I Love You” We can say “love you” in a text message or as a quick goodbye since the atmosphere and tone of the conversation are very relaxed and easy-going.īut when we want to express our love to people that hold significant meaning to our lives, “love you” can come across as detached or indifferent. “Love you” often feels less intimate and typically connotates a less committed relationship with the other person.īut if the intent behind the phrase is to make things casual or light-hearted, then saying “love you” isn’t necessarily a bad thing. If the other person doesn’t reciprocate the same feelings, we can simply shrug our shoulders and move on with our lives. Without knowing it, we distance ourselves from the people we say “love you” to because it’s easy to wave it off. I say “love you” to the tub of ice cream that I reward myself with after a hard day. I say “love you” to Beyoncé at her concert when she starts to sing “Love on Top”. I say “love you” to the girl who commented “You look nice” on my Instagram picture. “Love you” is a general and vague statement. It was more about the emotion and intent behind those three words. So, it wasn’t necessarily about how he said it, like how all of my friends perceived it to be. I realized that there was a grave difference between “I love you” and “love you.” These were just some of the responses I received after telling my friends how after 9 months of dating, we had finally told each other “I love you.”īefore him, I had a couple of different boyfriends and every single one of them had all confessed their love to me by saying a quick “love you.” And then we went on with both of our days.īut when this man said “I love you”, I could feel that it meant something completely different than the “love you’s” my past relationships had told me. “So are you going to break up with him now?” “Why would you say it back under those circumstances?” “Doesn’t that make you MAD he said it over text?” ![]() Instead, I got a text message saying, “I love you (red heart emoji).” I pictured rose petals scattered on the floor, dimly lit candles lining the room, and a colorful arrangement of flowers in his hands as he would look me in the eyes, slowly lean in closer, and say those three magical words.īut of course, the dream I had did not go as planned. Ever since I was little, I dreamed of the day the love of my life would confess his deep, fiery, and passionate love for me.
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